Going on a First Date? How to Know If Your Date is Worth Keeping

One of the cruel things about first dates is that they cloud your judgment. For one thing, you're nervous. You're thinking about how you look, what you want to say, and whether your date is into you. You're trying not to seem too nervous, but you're worried that it's completely obvious, and it seems like the more you worry about looking nervous, the more nervous you become.

And with all of this self-worrying, you may even miss some important points about your date, so you're not even sure whether you can make a clear judgment your feelings.
That's why it's important to take your feelings out of it.
Look for some solid signs that your date is worth keeping. If you can't keep track of everything during the date, wait until the next day, and think hard about what happened. Here are some of the things that you should look for. I'll use the male pronouns, but these points apply just as much if your date is female.
Politeness: Was your date extremely polite not only to you, but also to the wait staff and any other people that you witnessed him interacting with? Politeness (or lack thereof) is like a window into a person's real moral character. If your date is rude, dismissive of people, or just uncaring toward others, this could indicate a high risk of relationship troubles.

Cell phone use is included in this category. When you're going on a date with someone, you should not see his cell phone even once. The worst thing is when a date keeps his cell phone on the table during dinner, or keeps pulling it out and glancing at it. This signals a fundamental disrespect and a lack of common manners.

He's interested in you: It's terrible to go on a date only to have the person talk incessantly about himself. Any man with good character will show genuine interest in you. He'll ask plenty of questions, he'll listen intently, and he'll do things to show that he's interested-such as asking follow-up questions, or saying something interesting to show that he comprehends what you've told him.
If he already seems distracted and uninterested, then he's probably not going to be fun to hang out with in the long run. Or even worse, he could just be too busy thinking about how he's going to get you into bed.

He makes eye contact: Being able to make eye contact shows that your date is both comfortable with himself and interested in making a deep connection with you.
He's not presumptuous: \
No one likes a grabby guy, or a guy who assumes that any woman who goes on a date with him is automatically willing to jump in the sack. This shows a lack of respect for you and also a lack of seriousness on his part.
If his goals were primarily carnal, there are easier ways to get what he wants than going on a date with a perfectly nice girl. Teach him a lesson by rejecting his advances and never calling him again.
by Caterina Christakos