Approach Girls the Right Way For Real Success

Here's an important lesson you can learn when it comes to wanting to know how to approach girls. You must realize that eventually you're going to grow old, and will reflect on all the missed opportunities you had when you was younger, because you simply didn't know how to approach these girls the correct way.
Think about this for a moment. When you approach girls in search of a date, what is the absolute worst that can happen? Women are not going to devour you with one bite. They won't make fun of you or laugh (unless you use some really silly chat up line) and they certainly wont reject your advance so bad that it puts you off approaching girls for life.

The worst thing that can happen when you approach girls is that a girl will say to you "Sorry, I'm not interested". Even if she wasn't a very nice person and said something horrible to you, you'd simply have to laugh it off and walk away! The point is, at least you tried and you took action.
For every 100 girls you asked out, the law of averages state that 99 would probably reject you, and the other 1 would say yes. What I'm getting at here is that you should never miss any opportunities when it comes to wanting to approach girls.

If you see something you like, then go right ahead and go for it! If you're in a bar or club and there is a real cute bunch of girls talking away across the room and one of them catches your eye. Take a deep breath, focus on what you are going to say, be confident and relaxed and head on over.
There really is no secret when you want to learn how to approach girls, it's all just common sense!

Body Language to Attract Women

When you approach a woman, there are certain things that attract them, which includes: vocal tonality, body language, and facial expressions.
For this article, I'm going to give you some examples of good body language when it comes to approaching women, so you'll have a better chance of getting her number. (Because we all know the #1 way to not attract the woman is poor postures and bad body language)
Non-verbal communications that attract her...

1. Not leaning in AKA "pecking".
In pick up artist lingo, we call this "pecking". Basically when you're talking to her, you don't want to lend in really close to her face, because it would creep her out. You want to stand straight and lend back during the beginning of the conversation when you're getting to know her.
Why? Because leaning in will make you needy and desperate, and women can sense this right away.
Of course you might do this in a unconscious level, so be sure to self correct yourself.
Ever watched a movie where some clueless keeps leaning into the woman and she's feeling creeped out but the guy is clueless and keeps pecking and talking to her? Now you know...

2. Nervous posture
By this, I mean having a hunch back. Or putting your knees close together and clasping your hands. I see this all the time as a pick up instructor. You want to be relax as possible. Imagine that you're in your home and talking to this woman because you know her for a long time. Why? Because a confident man shouldn't be nervous when he's talking to a woman.

Lance Tayshaun

How to Attract Women When You Think You're Ugly by

To give this question as much justice as possible, we must first properly understand and define the word "ugly". What could be ugly in the eyes of one individual could be totally different in the eyesight of another; nevertheless, there are obvious cases in which only your mother would consider you good looking. So if you want to know how to attract women when you perceive yourself as one ugly son-of-a-gun; keep reading.

The first order of business is to stop perceiving yourself as ugly even when it may be obvious to so many people that you are. Now you may ask how someone can accomplish this. It begins with establishing an aura of confidence.
How to attract women can become an afterthought for men who perceive themselves as ugly if they're capable of gaining a certain amount of confidence.
There are some men who would try to reveal strategies, techniques and formulas which can help men to attract women who are considered above average, ugly or have an insignificant amount of money to show for. A number of men may resort to these methods out of desperation; however, if you really want to be successful at attracting women then it's best that you subscribe to one technique; approach.
Approach is arguably the most important ingredient needed if you truly want to know how to attract women; even if you perceive yourself as ugly. Once you've mastered the right approach it's extremely important that you realize that the way other people perceive you is a direct result of how you perceive yourself.
If you're accustomed to projecting yourself in a negative light, then women will view you in the way in which you perceive yourself. It cannot be emphasized enough that you must perceive yourself the way you would like to be seen.
The fact of the matter is that some people really are ugly and the only way they're going to learn how to attract women to them is by exuding confidence and having a great sense of humor. Plus there's always the possibility of someone feeling sympathetic towards your condition or personal appearance.
There are women out there who have a heart and may very well be considerate and give a person an opportunity; only if the approach is correct and acceptable.

Attracting women when you're not working with a great appearance will require that you compensate for your shortcoming. This means that you must be capable of highlighting your strong points or create some that will work to your advantage. It's one thing to be unattractive in your appearance; however, it's a totally different story when you're in good health, approachable and high spirited.

These are some of the characteristic that will compensate for your shortcomings and if used appropriately, your outward appearance will be overshadowed. by Brett Carter

Four Tips For Coming Out to Parents by Nancy Travers.

If you are gay or a lesbian, you know that one day you must tell your parents about your lifestyle. You may also wonder if they already know or if they will be completely taken by surprise.
You may wonder if they will embrace you as the son or daughter they've always had or if they may cut themselves out of your life. Deciding to come out to one's parents makes for a difficult conversation, but if you know what to expect going in, the outcomes will be a great deal more positive.
Four Tips for Coming Out To Parents
Pick a Good Time. Selecting an appropriate time to come out makes all of the difference. Don't come out in a show of anger or when the new girlfriend or boyfriend has arrived at your parents for Thanksgiving. Pick a time where everyone is calm and open.
Know It Takes Time.
Even if you've been raised in a supportive family, your parents may still need time to digest your coming out. They may go through a period of mourning where they realize that you won't have a typical marriage or a typical relationship with the outside world. Be prepared for a worst case scenario if your parents cut you off. If you live with your parents, be sure you have a back-up place to stay.
Be sure to gather friends and other family members who are supportive of your coming out and go to them if your parents reject you. And even if you want to reject your parents after they reject you, resist this urge and stay in contact with periodic hand-written notes which show that you are still willing to communicate and re-establish the relationship when they are ready.
Teach Your Parents. Now is the time to reassure your parents that they did nothing wrong and that you are the way you are because of biology. Gently reject any attempts of them trying to convert you to go straight, and instead say that you know they love you and remind them that they taught you to have integrity and stand up for your beliefs. This is what you're doing now and you are not trying to be someone you are not. Even if they don't like this response, they will come to respect you.

Explain Why You Are Coming Out. Let your parents know that you're coming out so that you are not stressed anymore about hiding a vital part of yourself. Reassure them that you have a supportive network of friends you can go to if you need help. You can also allay their fears of your discrimination by saying that you stand up for yourself and that you can handle yourself with grace and strength when the situation allows.
The coming out talk is never easy, but it may enfold naturally if your parents ask you about your love life or if they ask you in you are gay or a lesbian. Go with the flow if the timing is right and trust that even though your parents need time to adjust, they are still your parents and love you unconditionally.

I Know What I Wish I Could Give Her .by Suzanne Magee

To tell you the truth, the whole proposition 8 thing really disheartened me for a while. It made me angry that so many Americans would go so far out of their way just to hurt me and those like me.
I like to think that I'm fair minded, and that I understand why some people disapprove of my sexual preference. But in reality, I don't. Not really. I mean, it doesn't bother me that they are heterosexual and even though I find that lifestyle distasteful, I wouldn't walk across the street to keep them from being able to be happy.
I certainly wouldn't carry hateful posters, yell ugly remarks at them, and spend my hard earned money to make sure that they can't be together in the same meaningful way that I could.
Maybe that's the problem for us. We aren't willing to attack their rights, as a means of asserting our own. Perhaps begging for table scraps off of their buffet isn't the answer. If equal protection under the law is the basis for our argument for equality, then maybe the strategy we need to employ is attacking those rights that they enjoy that we don't, instead of begging for them.
We can't marry and have the benefits of that union, then instead of this endless fight to marry why not just start demanding that the rights that they enjoy that we are denied be removed from the union of marriage? If you MUST be married to have survivor benefits of social security, then that benefit should no longer be given on the basis of marriage.
If every American can't have it, then none should. Perhaps by trying to take away those things that make marriage such a valuable and desirable institution, we can make them understand just how important marriage really is to every American. Not just to heterosexuals.
If they are going to use religion to continue this campaign of hate and prejudice, then I don't want to make spreading those views to another generation any easier for them. I don't want their religious views to be taught or respected in any venue or institution that my tax dollars support (especially since I have to pay more of those taxes than they do, as a "single" person). I've never voted to keep prayer out of schools, or to limit religious organizations tax free status' before. But my thinking on that issue is changing.
The freedom to exercise one's faith is important, I believe that. But if your faith demands that you persecute and hurt others, then there must be limits.
I think I'm just getting tired of waiting.
Tired of trying to be patient and hope that as time passes people will change. We keep pointing at the inequality that exists between us, and trying to change minds without being as brutal and hateful as those who oppose us. I doubt we ever could be. I don't think that my circle of gay friends even have it in them to mirror the mindset of the people who apparently hate and fear us more than anything else.
Christmas is right around the corner, and my partner of 7 years and I are still here. Still together. Still loving each other and trying to build a life and future together. I don't know what I'll get her this year, but I know what it won't be. It won't be that one thing that I've always wanted to give her, a wedding ring.

What About Lesbian Bed Death? by Suzanne Magee

It seems like almost any conversation about the nuts and bolts of Lesbian sexuality almost always leads to some mention, however muted, of 'Lesbian Bed Death'.
The mere utterance of the term is enough to make any single and sexually active Lesbian cringe at the thought and the term itself carries such negative imagery that it's not hard to understand why.
If you get right down to the facts, there is no recognized medical diagnosis called 'Lesbian Bed Death'. There is a recognized diagnosis called 'female sexual dysfunction' and the symptoms allegedly attributed to LBD certainly apply to that diagnosis. However, female sexual dysfunction is not a Lesbian oddity, and actually affects close to 4 out of 10 women in the US according to the Mayo Clinic's Website.

To understand how a loss in libido occurs for women, you have to understand how the opposite effects on libido occur as well. When we first become attracted to someone, our brains release Dopamine and Norepinephrine.
The release of these 2 chemicals account for the elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention we feel during this period. With men the release of these chemicals happens much faster than women because of their visual nature when it come to the opposite sex. The chemical brew surging around our brains at this time is very close to that of obsessive-compulsive people. Now there's a scary thought.

As the relationship progresses to sex, oxytocin is released during orgasm. Oxytocin is responsible for creating emotional bonds and healthy interpersonal relationships. Women release more oxytocin than men during sex, which may explain why they tend to bond much easier at this point in the relationship. Some researchers believe that this is why men can dump a woman after a one night stand so easily, they take longer to form that emotional bond than women do.
As a relationship progresses, vasopressin is released, and seems to be responsible for those long term, monogamous bonds that so many people long for.
There are some studies seem to imply that vasopressin and oxytocin interfere with the dopamine and norepinephrine pathways, which explains why passionate love fades in about 6 months to a year. Endorphines are also released during sex. They provide a feeling of well being, and combined with oxytocin provide strong feelings of attachment.
Other MRI studies, conducted in 2006-7 by Dr. Lucy Brown, a professor in the department of neurology and neuroscience at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York, and her colleagues, revealed that the caudate and the ventral tegmental, brain areas involved in cravings (e.g., for food) and the secretion of dopamine, are lit up in subjects who view photos of their loved ones.
Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that affects pleasure and motivation. It causes a sensation akin to a substance-induced high, and there is a growing body of evidence that would indicate that physical love is very closely akin to addiction as far as our bodies are concerned. Falling in love involves the enhanced secretion of b-Phenylethylamine (PEA, or the "love chemical") in the first 2 to 4 years of the relationship.
What it all boils down to is that our bodies function in a way that encourages us to find a suitable mate, and to procreate. We are chemically driven to seek out that sexual relationship and to have sex as often as possible in the early going, in our bodies hopes to fulfill what it perceives to be the ultimate goal: the continuation of the species.
It's sad, but our bodies are chemically driven to procreate, not necessarily to be happy. Even though what we "want" is a stable, compassionate, fulfilling, monogamous relationship, our bodies aren't necessarily geared to provide those emotional desires to us.. The early parts of a relationship are chemically supported, later on, we're on our own.

Lesbian women are no different than heterosexual women, and singling us out as the recipients of "bed death" is an attempt at labeling of the worst kind in my opinion. The reality is that one of the biggest problems in heterosexual relationships is a loss of female libido, perhaps in a lesbian relationship that translates into less sex than it does in a heterosexual relationship perhaps because lesbians may be less likely to engage in sex just to appease their partners. How many straight women do you know that have sex with their husbands to prevent an argument, or because it's expected? How many straight men do you know who would have sex with their partners without really caring if it's something they truly want at the moment?
No doubt that human love is more complex than the chemical signals that our bodies send us when we meet, have sex, fall in love, and build lives together. But it's where we start, and underlying all of our interactions both early on in a relationship and later, it's there. So what can we do about it?
I believe that talking about a loss in libido that is affecting your life, or causing you stress, should be discussed honestly with your primary care physician. Having that conversation with your Doctor can open up new doors for you in your sexual life. There are proven therapies out there for women who have a loss of libido, like hormone therapies (including testosterone), but the first step is always to rule out physical issues with your physician.

It's never easy for any woman to address sexual dysfunction with someone, even a Doctor. It can be especially difficult for a lesbian. Fear of prejudice or ridicule can keep a lesbian from discussing sexual issues with their Doctor, and that's not acceptable. If you're Doctor isn't accepting of your life and willing to help you the same way they would a heterosexual, then you need a new Doctor not just to address this issue, but to ensure that all of your health needs are treated with concern and respect.

If you ask me if I think LBD exists, I'd have to say no. I do believe that loss of libido for women who are in stable sexual relationships, of any kind, exists and is experienced by a very large population of women in this country.
It's not a lesbian problem, it's just a problem that seems to come up for women who find themselves finally in a stable relationship, and their bodies stop reinforcing the drive to mate with a chemical cocktail that drives us toward sex, but it doesn't have to mean the end of sexual intimacy, and there is help for women who are experiencing it in a way that disrupts their lives and their relationships. You don't have to just accept it as a part of your life, talk to your Doctor about it!

Fall In Love With It! By: Scott Smallwood

Attracting the things you want for your life - whether in the form of relationships, improved self esteem or the creation of wealth - requires following a formula, just like in a science or math problem.

One of the steps in the formula involves what I like to call “falling in love” with the idea of receiving the thing(s) you want.Take a moment and think back to a time when you fell in love. Remember the sheer and unabated joy that you felt?
Maybe your step seemed a bit quicker, perhaps you found yourself smiling or even unexplainably breaking into laughter or doing so with greater frequency. You also likely thought about your love interest constantly, perhaps even spending long periods of time in phone conversation. You probably talked incessantly about them to your friends or family members. Sound familiar?Sure!
The feeling that you got from falling in love made you feel energized, like there was nothing you could NOT do - that anything was possible. In much the same way that falling in love with another human being amps you up, attracting the things you want both for and in your life requires capturing this same sort of feeling.

Falling in love with your goals or desires works in your favor in a couple of ways. One way is that it tricks the subconscious mind.
The subconscious is extremely powerful and, unless trained or conditioned, acts to keep you exactly where you are – stuck and getting the same results you are currently getting. By tricking your subconscious, you are breaking the hold, or the story, that this guilty culprit places on you.
It is your belief system or the way you see and act in your world that cunningly holds your dreams (and you) in check."Falling in love with it" is the emotion you generate as you see yourself actually getting what you desire. Some routinely refer to this as visualization. Proper visualization has two parts or components. The first is the actual seeing yourself acquiring or accomplishing the thing you most want.
The second piece of the visualization puzzle requires that you go a little deeper. You must physically experience the feeling of having accomplished or reached your destination. How good does it feel, for example, to actually attract the person of your dreams?
How does this feeling translate itself in your body, in your mind, your soul? What does it feel like to have that person sitting next to you, holding you, kissing you? Get in close touch with this feeling.
This is what "falling in love with it" is all about and, when coupled with action towards your desires, is a powerful force! Feelings affect your results because once you have a thought about something, you then create an emotion around that thought. Feelings are vibrations that come into your body and bring together your thoughts and emotions.
As you learn to master your feelings and emotions, you will be able to create the intention and vibration of what you want.But your goals don’t automatically manifest themselves just because you can "feel and emote." As I mentioned earlier, it is the "action" part of the equation that allows your desire to become manifest. Action AND resolve are necessary.
Resolve separates the men from the boys. Resolve is the piece that defines the price you are willing to pay in order to get what you want. Sadly, most people are not willing to pay the price necessary for claiming their prize.
Taped to my computer is a little saying that really emphasizes this notion of resolve: “Remember that great love and great achievement involve great risk.” Millions of people go through life hoping for some sort of lucky break.
They lack both the interest and the excitement in their goals that allows their desire to build up momentum inside of them.
This attitude (sloth) is the recipe of the status quo and has unnecessarily imprisoned mankind for centuries.Goals that become charged with emotion are goals that are more quickly realized.

Falling in love with your idea and injecting the emotion that bubbles up for you as you see yourself standing in the winner’s circle will get you inside that circle with much greater speed. Falling in love with your desires can spell the difference between happy or crappy. YOU decide.