A Quick Divorce? Who are you kidding? A divorce is a law suit, plain and simple. It involves lawyers and laws because it is NOT a simple matter. It is an issue that you will be dealing with for the rest of your life.
Marriage is a legally binding contract between two responsible people. Divorce is the legal process whereby this contract is broken (or broken up). Marriage was intended to be for a lifetime. Therefore someone is going to pay to have it terminated.
The issue is, "Who is going to pay?" and "How much are they going to have to pay?" Maybe you think I am talking about money here. Maybe. But just barely. You see, you pay for a "quick divorce" up front, and the lawyers get their money. But then the real payments begin, and they last for a lifetime. It is not quick. There is nothing quick about it.
There are the necessary phone calls back and forth with your ex. There is the custody of the children that must be worked out in a sociable manner. Civilly. There are the child care payments. There is the "new" husband and/or "new" wife to deal with. His and hers. Then there are the in-laws from all the parties involved.
Holidays and family gatherings become quite troublesome and stressful. The occasional meeting up with your ex in a parking lot or in a store becomes a nightmare. Socially and psychologically, there is nothing quick about divorce. It will take you the rest of your life to get over it. And the same is true or your children and the rest of your family.
I understand the desire to be "out of this relationship" as quickly as possible. But trust me, it won't be quick. No matter what your lawyer tells you. Fixing your marriage and learning how to help your spouse love you is Cheaper Than Divorce.
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